I will try my best not be biased about our story and if you have any questions to ask please do.
I met him last year December precisely and we both work in the same office, we became best of friends but he was in a relationship (distant) and I was single.
We were really close because we both were new in town with no family around and then I fell in love with him and opened up about my feelings to him but he said he was in a relationship.
I was hurt but I held my head up and moved on. I started mingling with other male colleagues and then he became jealous and so I confronted him about it (still loved him) and u also told him to choose between us and he said he wants me. His decision was based on the fact that the other lady was far away, he thought she was promiscuous and she is an OND holder etc (I got to find out about this later).
We moved in together because of financial stress and talked about getting married next year… Late June this year I found out he had not broken up with the other lady, confronted him about it and he settled the issue.
I got pregnant July and he asked for an abortion, I insisted on keeping the baby with or without marriage.. He finally accepted to marry me and proceeded to tell my parents(he later said I forced him to that). He accused me of so many things and called me different names.
He traveled to his hometown and informed his parents about it all and met with the lady. On his return, he said the lady gives him peace and if I lose this pregnancy he will go back with her and that he loves her but he is just getting married to me because he respects my family and do not want to bring shame to me at work.
I cried, prayed and endured it all. Two weeks ago his family came for the introduction and the wedding has been fixed for December but I’m not happy.
I’m a shadow of myself, he feels disgusted by my presence and I can’t say anything without him getting angry. I used to nag and quarrel a lot but I’ve stopped, even when I’m angry I just walk away.
He does not care about me and this pregnancy and if I tell him I’m sick or tired or anything, he will just say that I’m not the first to get pregnant and that it’s when I push the baby he will take responsibility.
I have tried my best and I’m confused, last night I called him peacefully to ask him what I’m doing wrong but he said I’m disturbing him. I used to call his parents and my parents to intervene but he said I should stop that and I have stopped.
Please what can I do to save our relationship, it’s not easy for me . this is not the man I fell in love with help me and please I need your advice because I am ready to do anything.
I want my child to have a normal family.